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October 17, 2004
Self-Help is on the Way!
Oh God... I just took this personality test on Yahoo! Personals (While I was supposed to be writing a paper for film studies... So sue me), and it is dead on. What was cool about the test was that it wasn't your typical astrological love-vibe quiz. I mean, it took me about ten minutes to fill it out (Answering honestly). And the questions seemed pretty well thought out. You couldn't get any closer my personality than this.
Your Personality Type: Individualist
As an Individualist, you stand out as your own person—imaginative, curious, shrewd, introspective, and filled with surprises.
You're a free spirit. You've chosen your own path in life and don't do things simply to please other people. You're creative, intelligent, and opinionated. This isn't always a popular combination! Some misinterpret your insight and independence; they may see you as stubborn and a little snobbish.
It's true you're a natural skeptic and critic. You're often more in tune with what's wrong in a situation than what's right. You've probably gravitated toward jobs and hobbies where you can investigate, analyze, and solve problems. The challenge is being able to turn off that "critical eye." Skepticism and doubt are great tools at work, but they can be destructive in your personal life.
Fortunately, your quirky take on life can be very attractive. You often say and do the unexpected, which makes you fun and exciting to be around. You're very selective about who you share your life with. The lucky few find a very open and compassionate friend, who gives without condition. Lovers discover a very sensual person who is comfortable with their body.
Individualists have a knack for innovation. Like pioneers, you have the potential to chart a new course and break new ground in your career and community. Not everyone will appreciate it, but you're a true original.
Your Love Style: Romantic
True Romantics like you are pretty rare. You have a good imagination, which allows you to visualize the type of man you could fall in love with. You can actually see and feel the future happiness the two of you would share. You also have the patience and persistence to search for him.
When you finally meet him, the attraction can be instant and overwhelming. True Romantics believe in destiny, but you're also willing to give fate a push in the right direction. If necessary, you'll even make a total fool of yourself to win him over. Romantics know that falling in love often means falling flat on your face.
Still, if the two of you can connect, you'll have the capacity to experience the type of love most people only dream about. Specifically, your "style" of loving appears to have these common features:
You're looking for a very close, intimate relationship. You want to share every aspect of your life with him and not hold anything back. This means knowing about each other's pasts, including the unflattering parts. Most importantly, though, you should be very open and totally honest about your life now. If you love him, you'll want to know about his hopes and dreams, as well as his fears and insecurities.
You're most likely to fall in love with a man who's independent by nature. He won't expect to merge his life with yours. Keeping separate friends, for example, will just give you more to talk about when you're together.
A good sexual connection is also important, but intense sexual passion tends to wane over time. Eventually, affection and companionship are as (if not more) important as good sex.
Both partners have to decide when they're ready to make a commitment and at what pace. Rushing into a commitment only adds to the pressure of forming a relationship. The two of you have to find the type and level of commitment that makes sense given your feelings and how long you've been together.
Individualists in Love
It's rare for an Individualist to be a Romantic. Your natural skepticism doesn't fit well with the leap of faith that romantic love requires. Then again, Individualists are always full of surprises. You're a rebel at heart, and romance is the ultimate rebellion against rules and rationalism.
Good and Bad Fits
It's important to be compatible not only in how much you love each other, but also the way the two of you love:
A woman who values Romantic love, for example, will be most happy with men who share the same approach or who have a Passionate or Destined love style. However, you'd probably be frustrated trying to connect with men who seek Spontaneous or Careful love, because they're seeking a more casual relationship.
Your Biggest Challenge Is: How Can You Keep Your Critical Nature from Consuming Your Life?
Individualists are always watching out for new problems that could come up. You're a natural problem solver. So you're certainly prepared to handle any obstacle.
Unfortunately, staying constantly on guard can heighten your suspicion of other people and lead you to assume the worst. Over time, this hyper-vigilance can make you quick to get angry and blame other people before you know all the facts. This same critical nature can also easily turn its focus on you. You can be excessively hard on yourself and take responsibility for problems that are out of your control. Your critical nature is a gift, but like all talents it needs to be guided and properly directed in order to be useful.
Individualists are not into fads or pop-psychology, but you're still a believer in ongoing self-improvement. Some areas of your life that you may want to focus on include:
It's easy for you to escape into your own inner world. At times it can be easier to ignore real world problems and slip into your daydreams. You may find balance by using your fantasy life to imagine ways around your real world obstacles. Perhaps your mind is showing you a path out of your troubles if you can read the symbols.
At times you can be a little too serious and restrained. You need to get in touch with your "silly side." Discover what makes you laugh and do more of it. Let someone else be sensible for a while and let yourself be a kid again.
You can be an approval junkie. You want others to recognize and appreciate your accomplishments and the sacrifices you make for them. Unfortunately, most people either ignore or take for granted what you give. It sounds cliché, but the only one who can satisfy your need for approval is you. Try taking time each day to feel pride in what you've done. Appreciate yourself even when others don't or can't.
God... It's like someone hit me over the head with a double-dose of Doctor Phil and "Starting Over," with some Montel on the side. But the weird thing is, it's so close to everything I wrote about myself either here or here, only just spelled out in black and white. It's just too much.
I'm planning on making a call to the university's counseling services this week, as soon as I get my cell-phone fixed. Either the battery is crazy, or the keypad doesn't work, I can't figure out which. But I've had tons of messages piling up in my mailbox, and I don't want to call these psych-ward people from home, so that my parents can get a hold of the number on either the Caller-ID or next month's phone bill. No, I've gotta be all secret-agent about this stuff. Can't let people know about the pending crazniess too early, now can we?
posted at 9:57 p.m.
